Leader: Take Off Your Mask


An impostor is someone who pretends to be someone they are not.  Impostor syndrome then is someone who intentionally and consistently presents an image to other people that does not reflect who they are or what they think.  It can take many forms.

  • In classrooms, it is a person who does not want to appear incompetent or incorrect. Therefore, that person presents an image of intelligence or competency by answering every question even though internally he/she feels like a failure, believing that at any moment this façade will be exposed.
  • In churches, it is a person who proclaims spiritual maturity even though his/her marriage is falling apart; or someone in leadership who is consumed with a habitual sin. In other cases, the person is overcommitted to ministry even though he/she is apathetic towards God.  The desire to appear spiritual and “have it together” drives his/her need to be an impostor.
  • In leadership, it is not uncommon for someone to “fake it until they make it.” Faced with leadership expectations and organizational pressures, a manager struts with confidence and power despite internally crumbling from the weight of responsibility.  To validate and preserve his/her position, the person conceals insecurities or rationalizes if not blames failures on others.

Being an impostor is hard work with very little reward.  You spend a ton of effort to keep up a front while inside your soul grows drier, darker, and more empty.  You exude happiness and joy while you stare in the mirror with self-hate and glare at a neighbor with jealousy and judgment.  You display vibrancy and charisma while your soul is surviving the day, longing for the evening when you can take off the mask.

It is no wonder that many people implode under the pressure of maintaining an image.  Leaders descend into moral failure as a means of escaping their own propped up expectations.  Christians walk away from the church because the “spiritual game” is simply too hard to keep playing.  And, when this happens, everyone is in shock as to how it happened.

I have found myself fostering an impostor syndrome on numerous occasions.  I don’t want someone to think less of me so I present an image.  I like the notion of having it all together so I craft my words and responses to encourage it.  I play the game because in some ways the game feels good, at least temporarily.

Yet, in the end the disconnect is not worth it.  Nor is it what God desires for us.

Christ came to give us the abundant life.  An abundant life made possible because we are redeemed through the cross.  In that moment, we became children of God – not perfect but forgiven.  God calls us to live out of our identity as sons and daughters of the King.  We are broken yet with grace.  We are stumbling yet with the offer of second and third chances.  We are “in process” of transformation yet not having arrived.  There is no shame in who we are in Christ.  Should we strive for holiness?  Absolutely.  But we should not pretend to be holy when we are not.  Therefore, we should put to death the desire to pretend otherwise.  God doesn’t demand it of us; why should we.


Leaders: Just Breathe


I am a “seize the day” type of guy.  I love to squeeze out every bit of drop from my day.  In fact, I find it hard to enjoy down time – to breathe, to reflect, to pray.  Oftentimes, I find these moments to be unproductive.  I could be sending off another email.  There is a phone call that is urgent (so I think).  The completion of another task will satisfy that incessant desire for fulfillment.  It is not uncommon for me to evaluate the productivity of my day based on the number of items checked off a list.  In other words, effectiveness is defined as busyness.

Johnny Diaz recently penned a new Christian song titled Breathe.  The chorus reads,

Breathe, just breathe                                                                                                                                        Come and rest at my feet                                                                                                                                    And be, just be                                                                                                                                                    Chaos calls but all you really need                                                                                                                       Is to just breathe

This notion has two implications for me.  First, it is personally convicting.  Christ calls me to “be” not principally “do.”  I am called to take moments to cultivate my relationship with him.  Without consistent moments throughout my day, I become wound up with tasks and duties, only to find myself becoming irritated at the end of the day.  Attempts to detangle cannot simply be left to a devotional life or worship service; it requires constant spiritual breathes to reflect on God’s working in my life – to pause, to wait, to seek.

Second, it is necessary as a leader.  Leadership requires vision-casting and decision-making.  Effective leaders are productive.  In fact, the more productive, the better the leader.  Phrases such as high capacity, organizational efficiency, and managerial greatness are tossed around, used to compliment those leaders that accomplish the most around us.  Oh, the standard that we elevate! Granted, it is not wrong to be efficient.  In fact, I would argue it is good stewardship.  However, productivity at the expense of spiritual passion and health is improper and eventually destructive.  If not corrected, it leads to pride, burnout, and the objectification of those around us.

The remedy:  consistent moments to stop the busyness and breathe.

It is vital to create personal sacred space throughout our day to realign with our Lord.  Truth be told, it is more efficient.  Hurriedness leads to mistakes, oftentimes resulting in a need to do something over.  When we do not prayerfully think through priorities and vision, we misalign them finding ourselves focused on the wrong things.  Or, worse yet, a void of reflective prayer elevates tasks over persons, tempting us to steamroll people in order to feel productive at the end of our day.  In other words, effectiveness should be defined as prayerful and reflective work, not simply more work.  Leaders who practice such discipline are healthy, grounded, and properly focused.  And ultimately, they create an attraction that allows others around them to equally find that sacred space and productivity.

So just breathe.





Leadership and Anchor Points


I love to sail.  One of my favorite moments in sailing is anchoring the boat off the shore of Chicago to watch the Air and Water Show.  One of the best feelings in the world is sitting with my family as F-16s buzz the boat overhead.  It is a popular weekend for boating.  It is not unusual to have hundreds of boats lined up.  Obviously, a properly fixed anchor is essential to enjoying the show.  If not, your boat will drift off crashing into an unexpecting and certainly soon-to-be frustrated boat owner a few feet away.  I have seen it happen; it is not pretty.

Key:  freedom is dependent on a fixed anchor.

The news has been dominated by a variety of “crashing boats” when it comes to leadership.  What is the difference between a fact and an alternative fact?  Truth is objective; therefore, facts are objective.  When leadership proposes alternative facts despite clear evidence to the contrary, it signals the presence of an unfixed anchor point.  Truth can be adjusted to meet one’s ends.  The anchor point then becomes personal ambition rather than an objective reality.

A conservative nominee has been offered for the Supreme Court bench.  Clearly, there is disagreement over his suitability, primarily related to social issues.  At what point does life begin for a person, conception or birth?  Do religious institutions have the right to express their beliefs even if popular culture disagrees with these views?  These are topics that will be debated during Neil Gorsuch’s confirmation hearing.  Decision-making matters when it comes to leadership.  There are differing opinions when it comes to social issues.  Thus, we need an anchor point.  Otherwise, our decisions become planted in opinion rather than a concrete truth.

Leadership involves power and influence.  One can easily squash another person based on their position.  Or, one can view their status as a means of leverage, either for good or evil.  History records numerous examples of individuals who have used their leadership position to harm.  Even though the concept of servant leadership is popular, it is not easy based on the inherent temptations when it comes to a position of power.  If our anchor point is not fixed on the values of Christ, power will corrupt.  Our sinful human tendency will prevail.

As a believer, there is a constant struggle when it comes to leadership.  It involves the old vs. new man articulated by Paul in Romans 7 which are then exasperated by the conforming pulls of the world.  Thus, it is critical for believers to be deeply anchored in the transcendent values of the kingdom which do not change.  For leaders, this foundation is essential.  It frames our perspective and decision-making.  When we are rooted in Christ and then allow those values to permeate our leadership, eternal values become our fixed point – immovable, unchanging, sustaining.  This foundation is freeing as it allows us to navigate with confidence the shifting truth that is so prevalent in our society.  And in doing so, it cultivates a spiritual leverage that can be used for the advancement of the gospel.






Ok, you have probably been wondering where I have been over the past month.  I have been in the midst of a significant transition.

For the past eighteen years, I have been serving as the Senior Pastor of Harvard Avenue Evangelical Free Church.  It has been a wonderful journey.  We have shared so many experiences and memories with the church.  It has been a joy to share life with so many in deep and enriching ways.

Two months ago, after much prayer and discussion as a family, I accepted a faculty position at Lancaster Bible College in Lancaster, Pennsylvania.  The position involves me being professor and director of the PhD program in Leadership Studies.  In the fall, the college brought Penny and me out for a visit then flew the entire family out for a second visit a month later.  During this time, God confirmed for our entire family that this was the beginning of the next chapter in our lives.  It has been filled with much prayer as we tried to discern whether or not this was the right step for us.  In the end, we felt God nudging us that this was the right decision.  Our last Sunday will be this weekend.  I am confident it will be both joyous and sad.

As I consider this new position, I have decided to adapt my blog themes.  I will continue to make them relevant to everyday life.  However, the focus will be on leadership themes beginning next week.  I hope that you enjoy these reflections.  Christian leadership is a vital area that requires discussion and constant evaluation.  Join me as we begin a new focus in 2017.

Christ is unique


Christ is unique.

Consumerism offers the momentary satisfaction from a gift received.

Christ offers lasting joy in the midst of any situation.

Christmas parties offer a nice evening of fun and enjoyment with friends.

Christ offers permanent companionship with no concern over availability or unconditional love.

Christmas desserts offer a temporary delicacy that fill our taste buds.

Christ offers lasting fulfillment that never dissipates.

Christmas vacation offers a few days of rest with no work responsibilities.

Christ offers spiritual rest that restores our soul.

Christmas lights offer a festive mood to show our neighbors and friends.

Christ offers us the opportunity to be light of the world that can change a life.

Christmas sales offer the chance to buy some long needed things for our home.

Christ offers the ability to change our homes from the inside out.

Christmas meals offer the opportunity to enjoy our families with whom we don’t visit often enough.

Christ offers enduring fellowship through the promise to never leave us nor forsake us.

Christmas bonuses offer a sense of satisfaction over a job well done.

Christ offers that eternal validation that we are sons and daughters of the King.

Christmas music buoys our hearts at the thought of joy and peace.

Christ offers us eternal redemption which is true joy and peace.

Christmas traditions offer a sense of connection between the past and the present.

Christ offers divine purpose that we are part of something glorious in all of human history.

Yes, Christ is unique.


It’s Not Too Late


It’s not too late to celebrate Christmas.

I am not talking about the incessant shopping we are forced to do at this time of year.  In some respect, it is wonderful to buy gifts for someone else.  I like thinking about something special for my family – that open mouth and surprised look on the faces of my kids when they open something unexpected on Christmas morning.  Yet, the advertisers continue to blitz us with ad after ad regarding specials.  Deeper cuts, more discounts, end-of-the year sales that no one should miss out on.  It is easy to get sucked into shopping more and more because we don’t want to miss out on that great deal.  I for one have had enough shopping.  It is now time for me to reflect on the true Gift.

The calendar continues to remain full.  There are numerous activities still on the schedule.  They are fantastic events ranging from a Christmas program to serving the homeless.  I am looking forward to each of them.  Yet, it is easy to see these activities as things to do rather than events to enjoy.  December becomes a time of survival rather than celebration.  For many, this is the challenge.  They are trying to make it through the holiday parties and family obligations so they can get to that day or two where they can do nothing.  I for one have had enough surviving.  I don’t want to wait.  It is now time for me to celebrate eternal life in Christ.

Christmas is difficult for many people as there are small or even large family rifts.  Christmas is a dread as they think of making nice for a few days before retreating to their own home.  Or, there is a fall out with a friend or coworker.  Emotions of frustration or anger pop up as you think about the slights and hurts by someone you love.  Joy is sucked out as you replay the situation in your mind again and again.  Thus, Christmas is hijacked by someone else’s actions.  I for one have had enough drama.  It is now time for me to remember God’s grace through Christ in my life.

Christmas is next week.  December is slipping away quickly.  And there is a real possibility that we will find ourselves waking up in two weeks wondering what happened to the Christmas season.  We will be disappointed because we did not truly embrace the meaning of Christmas – the birth of our Savior.  It is not too late to celebrate Christmas – not the Christmas of gifts, parties and food, but the Christmas where Christ is central.  Christmas, where we marvel afresh at the amazing truth that God entered our world to provide hope and peace.  Christmas, where we find lasting peace and joy not found in presents and food comas.  It is not too late to carve out those moments of awe where we sit silently rejoicing in the glorious news that a Savior has come to us.

Mr. Grumpy


Grumpiness is contagious.

It is the one day you get to sleep in.  Your eyes open naturally after a solid night’s sleep.  There was no need for an alarm.  The kids were still sleeping so the house is completely peaceful.  You roll out of bed believing it is going to be a perfect day.  You stroll into the kitchen and make a fresh cup of Green Mountain Vanilla Crème.  You glance over at your phone fully charged.  It is such a perfect morning that you think, “I am not going to check my phone today.”  Habit kicks in.  You swipe it open and quickly check messages to see if anything important came in.  Your eyes scroll down and land on an unexpected email.  You quickly open it only to discover some frustrated comment from someone who decided to write an email in the middle of the night.

Ok, this is a scenario that we all face.  It might be a text or phone call rather than email.  But, it sets in motion an emotional downturn as you grow frustrated and irritated.  This one moment triggered a response in you that lasts for hours if not the remainder of the day.  You find yourself grumpy.  You become short.  The coffee does not taste as good anymore.  Duties for the day become a chore.  You are irritated at the slightest inconveniences such as the cold weather, the line at the store, or even the happy clerk.

We oftentimes don’t realize the ripple effect we have in life.  We are frustrated so we vent.  The emotions build up so we choose to air them.  It is our prerogative.  It is our right.  It is a common occurrence on social media as people frequently share their annoyances with anyone who will read, at times leading to a tidal wave of grievances by other people.

It is the highly unusual person who stops, takes a moment, and asks whether or not my mood will impact someone else.  But, we should.  Are there times where life is so frustrating that we need to share with someone?  Yes, of course.  However, it is far more common for us to become snarky at the slightest provocation.  And, in turn, it ripples into another person.  The other person becomes grumpy when in many cases there were not.  Our emotional frustration influenced that person or persons.  Thus, a string of grumpiness is triggered into other persons who woke up thinking it was going to be a perfect day.

Grumpiness is contagious but so is joy!

Rather than react to a comment what if we chose to leave it alone?  What if we took a moment and breathed?  What if we prayed for perspective and decided to not allow our emotions to be dictated by someone else?  What if we stopped the ripple before it began and determined to be an agent of joy?

Then, we offer up a compliment to anyone who is present.  We smile and tackle the day with enthusiasm and thankfulness.  Even though the line is long, we see a person with a dour face.  Rather than dismiss the person, we ask him how he is doing and say you love his jacket.  As you approach the checkout, it is clear that the clerk is having a rough day.  Hours of frustrated customers have worn her down.  You thank her.  You make a silly joke.  And you wish her an awesome Christmas.  Will she magically become joyous?  I don’t know.  However, it is certainly possible and far more likely than if we perpetuated grumpiness.

Is this not one of the reasons for the coming of Christ?  It is to offer us joy.  “But the angel said to them, “Do not be afraid.  I bring you good news of great joy that will be for all the people.”” (Luke 2:10).  Yes, Christ came to give us a life of joy.  So today I can think of no better way to celebrate his birth than by choosing to make joy contagious by celebrating the gift of life in the lives of those around me.

Joy too is contagious.